Ordinary Eve

I don't know about you but I find making New Year's Resolutions a lot easier than keeping them. This year I have a number including  

Stop swearing (like a Cornish fishwife)

and

Stop going back to the flat to check that I have put off the straighteners/blown out the candle/turned off the hob when deep down inside I know that I have!

First the good news

Primarily, keeping resolutions is just a question of creating new habits for myself and it only takes 20 repetitions to create a habit. (There you go, you learn something every day!) So theoretically, eventually, these new habits should stick.

Now the bad news

But unfortunately it takes only 3 repetitions to break a habit. And that's particularly bad news for one of my other resolutions, which is to be myself in relationships.

As I write I am waiting to go out on a date. It's a first date and one is always told to make a good impression on a first date. But what constitutes a good impression? Ok there are the obvious things like looking vaguely clean, smiling (not in a mad way), not smelling like you have walked out of a dumpster - but there are other ways of course. Such as agreeing with things you don't really agree with, not being 100% clear about your political/social/religious views in other words not properly representing yourself.

It's all very well to think you wouldn't do it but we all have at some point or other to some extent or other and I am fessing up to you now! Not that I run around pretending I am not a liberal Christian far from it, but sometimes I am more reticent about the part that my faith plays in my life than I should be.

And really what is the point of not being clear about who you are? After all, it will come out in the end, won't it?

Intimidation

Let's be clear that I am not talking about sitting down in social situations and intimidating people with your self-confidence or spouting views that would be hurtful to someone unnecessarily, just about being clear about who you are.

Help

Well, that's my resolution anyway and I'm going to have to do it 20 times before it becomes a real habit. I hope that God will bring you all the blessings you wish for yourself, and some that you don't even know you need.

I trust you are all praying for me (and not in a " turning aside from her path to destruction" kind of way -unless public consensus demands it).

Thanks.

Katie Streten

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